Soul Family
Upon the start of my awakening journey back in 2011, I listened to several channelers - Maureen Allan (channeled various angels, ascended masters and guides) and Sheila Gillette (channeled a group of arc-angels known as THEO) on a regular basis. This is where I first heard the term Soul Family. The consistent message I heard from them about soul family is that you incarnate with a pre-defined group of souls specifically set up to aid you in your growth throughout your life.
Now you may typically think of soul family as mother, father, brother, sister, basically the biological kind. However, soul family is not necessarily tied to those typical family members that you might assume would also be in your soul family. Don’t get me wrong, it can and often is a biological relation, but keep in mind there are often others such as friends, co-workers, teachers, intimate partners. You get the idea.
So how do you determine if someone is part of your soul family? The secret lies within some simple questions. If you think about all the people that have come in and out of your life who do you think had the most impact on you personally? Who helped to create the most change in you? Who triggered you the most?
Meet several members of my soul family;
My first soul family member I would like to talk about is my middle school-high school English teacher Norma Ahola. Like most children I lacked to a great degree self-confidence and self-worth. Most reflective of having a tough childhood being raised by alcoholic parents. However, Norma was immensely encouraging and gave me the nurturing I was so craving from a mother figure. She guided me to communicate through public speaking and I even joined a forensic competition and brought home a trophy. This boosted my sense of self immensely and gave me the communication skills I needed and continued to use throughout my life with great success. That’s why I believe she was a member of my soul family set up to help me on my path of growth. She was someone I never forgot who had a great impact on me.
Another member of my soul family is my first born daughter
She was the result of an unplanned pregnancy. I was 18 at the time, no job and unmarried. But her arrival into the world changed me in every way possible. It taught me how to take care of someone else unconditionally and what responsibility was all about. I gained great satisfaction in being a mom and the unconditional love I received back was incredibly healing. However, things were not often rosy and she pushed every button I had as a young mother. My inexperience and lack of presence often caused a disconnect between us. This disconnect created misunderstandings, hurtfulness and an awkwardness in how to come together at times. But this again was one of my greatest lessons. Once I was able to come to a conscious understanding and took responsibility for my part in the disconnect between us I was able to bridge into a relationship based on unconditional love, presence, and acceptance. I am now grateful for those lessons.
Finally, the most important aspect of the soul family I would like to emphasize is they can be and are often the most difficult people (in your mind) that you know. In order to grow as a person you MUST be challenged, your heart must be broken apart in order to let the love flow out. I’m sure you can think of several people that are in your life that I am talking about. Now let’s be clear, if the relationship is toxic and full of abuse, you must love yourself enough to leave. But you can still love them and it helps to be able to imagine that they are the divine dressed up as characters to test you. And trust me dear soul you are also that character dressed up for others - this is a two way street we are talking about here. Can you identify this character in yourself? It is not meant to be easy. You didn’t choose for it to be easy - I promise you. But with great understanding comes great rewards!
